1. “A family story that teaches a lesson becomes a guiding beacon for your family and binds generations together.” We all have learned life lessons in the school of hard knocks. Each of us has character traits that are important to our souls and very being. These are the values we wish to pass on to our children and grandchildren. Hint: If you want to your child to listen, do not start with “Well, when I was your age blah, blah, blah” begin with “Let me tell you a story.” Instant attention! If you don’t write the stories and their lessons down – they are lost forever.
2. “Today’s problems can be solved with yesterday’s stories. What is the difference between a story and a problem in life? In a story, we know the ending. In life, we will determine that ending by the choices we make.” Help your posterity see the end of the road, the consequence of choices made through someone they love's eyes. So, how are we going to cherish our family? Tell them a story. Stories have POWER!
3. Decide who your audience is. This was a major breakthrough for me. Eleanor had family stories that were only one page long! These stories were geared to younger children, her family calls them ‘Grandma Stories’. The stories all followed this format:
a. Introduce the person the story is about and the subject.
b. Tell the story
c. Sum up the lesson with your personal witness, thoughts and feelings about the lesson in 2 or 3 sentences.
d. Stories for teens and above are written as “The Rest of the Story” and are a longer, more detailed or have a more mature lessons – but they still follow the same format.
4. Stories are finished but the book is not! Another light bulb moment for me. As each story is finished, it is printed for all the family members and put in a plastic sleeve and binder for each person. Eleanor writes stories to be added to the binder throughout the year and gives them as gifts each Christmas. You mean I don’t have to have it all done right now! WOW!
5. Make a template. I came home from the conference and made up a template and wrote 2 stories in one Sunday afternoon! Here is how mine looks:
If you want a copy of this template leave a comment and email address below and I will send it to you. I tried to save it in Google Docs to download but it lost the formatting.
6. Organize Your Stories. Eleanor suggests that you
- Determine who you want to tell a story about or
- Figure out the subject you want a story about. This will help you recall stories you want to share.
As I collect stories I may have a professionally printed book down the road, but for now I am in love with the open ended freedom that comes with a binder.
The great news about this is it works! No longer am I waiting for that mysterious block of time to write my family history stories. I can produce a story in a hour or less! Then I am done…until I am ready to add another story, adding as I wish.
Thank you Eleanor C. Jensen, this in not only brilliant but it has been a life changer!
What a great post, Valerie!!! There's no excuse for any of us.
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Great ideas. I need to try utilizing some of her ideas in the Hero stories for the grands.
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Fran
Thank you, this post came at a time when I truly needed it.
ReplyDeleteWill you please send me a copy of your template?
Sue McCormick
mccormack44@mchsi.com
THANKS so very much for this creative post. I am SOOOO going to paint the famiyl tree up behind our piano, and mount the current family pics I receive every Christmas. AWESOME. Thanks for finding that.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for all the great comments. Mrytle, I am glad someone else was inspired about the ideas in my Christmas gift post. You are going to have to take pictures and post them when yo finish your wall! I am going to paint one into a wall niche and see how that turns out.
ReplyDeleteGood points! Small, manageable bits are often the key for the wannabe DIY'er to get going. Then don't stress about finishing it. I have a "draft" of my maternal lineage family history that just may never get finished, but it is far better to have something than nothing. A DIY'er working on her autobiography told us recently that she sees our personal history service the same way she sees her fitness instructor, someone to keep her motivated on a regular basis.
ReplyDeleteThese are good points! I love when things are broken into tinier bits. I actually have heard of this before and planned to implement, but without a template. I would love a copy please if you don't mind!geneaminded@gmail.com. Now I am off to do some more exploring about your blog! Love it! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteGreat Post and awesome idea which makes perfect sense. Maybe I can start writing these little stories now? I would love a copy of your template, it looks great. Thanks - shawgenealogy@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteGreat post! Sounds like a fantastic class. I can really see the benefit of this approach. I think having a template would be a big help, and would love to get a copy of yours. My email is Sbishop77@gmail.com. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThanks for a thought provoking post. Yes, I'd like a copy of the template.
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Thanks for your article. I believe the smaller stories will help to keep me focused and on track. I would love for you yo send me the template and thank you for sharing with all of us. My email is tennisc@ymail.com
ReplyDeleteI love the idea of a template. Why didn't I think of that? Lol! Please send me a copy of yours. Thanks!
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Thanks Valerie. A different perspective and approach from one I've used with my stories...much appreciated. Worth putting into book form once you have your collection. Agreed one never feels it's finished enough for a book but worth doing just the same. Happy writing.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this article. It can at a very good time as I am collecting information on my mother-in-laws family to be put in a book. I would very much like a copy of your template.
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I'm a little late coming to this post, but I saw it and was immediately drawn to the topic. This idea is so perfect because it breaks that huge "family history" mammoth task into small, easily-accomplished chunks. Thanks for the idea!
ReplyDeleteThanks also for dropping by on my blogiversary. I appreciate your comment and support!